Our family has been formed biologically and through adoption. Please follow along as we make our way through the ups and downs of life.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Hair *Updated*


Monday, April 27, 2009
Potty Time
Lili successfully used the potty this morning. She's a big girl now!!!!
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Time for Updates




We've also had some visitors on our pool deck recently. Check out the cute little Doves.

Thursday, April 23, 2009
Saving the Planet
Lili came home in disposable diapers and has been in them ever since. Disposables are just too convenient. Go to the store, buy a box of diapers, and Velcro them on your child. Too easy! The other reason I never switched, (okay, maybe I should say "My other excuse . . . .) is that the choices in disposable diapers are easier than the choices in cloth. It truly is amazing how many different cloth diapers there are to choose from. When the boys were in diapers I had the choice between prefolded or birdseye cotton diapers. I bought cute little diaper pins and plain old rubber pants. Now there is no need for diaper pins and I'm sure rubber pants are now found in museums. My choices now are Velcro or snap diaper covers which come in a variety of colors and prints. I can still buy prefolded cotton diapers and diaper covers have replaced rubber pants. My other choice is an all-in-one diaper. There are many different diaper companies and each one advertises something a little different about their diapers. I have to admit that having so many choices made the thought of switching a bit intimidating, but earlier this week I decided to check into cloth diapers again and found a woman who has a "diaper business" in her home. Yesterday Lili and I went to talk to her about all the choices and to see exactly what the differences are between cloth diapers. Wow!!!! She had shelves and shelves of different brands and each had something that was unique about them. After about a half hour of talking diapers, I made the switch from disposable to cloth. Yes folks, Lili has been home over a year, we're just a few short months from potty training and I bought cloth diapers. But not just any cloth diapers, I bought prefolded unbleached Japanese cotton diapers with diaper covers that fit babies between 10 lbs and 40 lbs. Not only do they fit Lili now, but they will fit Naomi when she comes home. The diaper covers I bought are by a company called "Blueberry." At the suggestion of my new 'diaper expert' friend, I also purchased an all-in-one diaper made by "Bum Genius." She recommended the Bum Genius all-in-one diaper for night time. I also ordered some "gDiapers," which arrived today. These are washable diaper covers with a biodegradable insert. The gDiapers will be used primarily for travel.
I really feel good about my decision to make the switch, even if I made it much later than I had intended. Considering the fact that we go through approximately 180 diapers a month, even if she's potty trained in two months, I've kept at least 360 diapers out of our landfill. By-the-way, did you know that it takes a disposable diaper about 500 years to biodegrade? Yuck!!
There is another reason I switched. Money! Even though Lili is only going to be using diapers for a little while longer, eventually Naomi will be here and I'll have everything I need to immediately put her in cloth diapers. Just doing some quick math, we will save at least $280 per year by switching to cloth diapers. I'm guessing I'll have at least 2 more years of diapering (probably a little more), but we will save at least $560.
So, I'm trying to help save the planet and our wallets by using cloth diapers. In addition, we are now growing our own vegetables, I'm riding my bike to run errands around town, as our light bulbs burn out I'm replacing them with CFL bulbs, I use reusable cloth bags for shopping and we recycle our aluminum cans. I informed Dave that I want a clothes line in the yard to cut down on the amount of energy we're using by running the dryer and I need to start recycling our plastics and papers.
I'm looking for more ways to 'save the planet,' so please share what you are doing.
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Meet Me In St. Louie


City Museum has a video arcade with old arcade games. 25 cent pin ball machines, car race game, target practice games, etc. I felt like I was walking back into my childhood.
Lili and mommy walking in the big barrel. Didn't take mommy long to get dizzy.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009
New Photos



Our little princess :-)

And the tiara as a headband.
Monday, April 13, 2009
Congrats and Exciting News *Update*
Exciting news from my blog friend Carrie. She and her husband are adopting from the Democratic Republic of Congo and in just a couple of weeks her husband will be traveling to pick up their new son.
A family from our agency group, the Zimmer's are also leaving soon to pick up their beautiful daughter.
Another blog friend Chantelle is waiting on court date news today. I'm hoping for nothing but good news for her family. *They passed court. Stop by and say congratulations.*
A lot of good things happening in the adoption world over the next couple of weeks which is always exciting!!!
Friday, April 10, 2009
End of Week




Yes, I was playing with my camera settings again and Lili was obviously ready to go. Thus, the blurry photo and serious look! However, I still think the picture is adorable.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
We're Back on Track
I'm sure everyone could hear my huge sigh of relief when I got the email from USCIS this afternoon!!!!
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
It Shouldn't Be This Difficult
In the meantime, I submitted a copy of our dossier documents to our agency coordinator to review. As she reviewed them she realized that due to increasing time lines after referral, a change was probably going to need to be made to our home study. Basically, when USCIS receives the home study one piece of information they are looking for is the age of the child we want to adopt. The age range of the child we are requesting is reflected on our 171H (USICS approval). Our home study requests an infant 0-12 months. However, this age range may not be adequate. If, for example, we receive the referral of a 6 month old infant and at the time of our Embassy appointment in Ethiopia she is 12 months and 1 day old, our 171H will not be acceptable because the age range only goes to 12 months. Our coordinator suggests that we increase the age range to 24 months just to be safe.
I didn't think this was going to be a big deal so I emailed our social worker to let her know we were going to need to make a change and this morning I get a response saying, "this is a bit more involved than one might think." In a nutshell, we start over again. She re-writes the home study, gets the IL required endorsement from DCFS and then sends it on to USCIS. She verified this information by contacting USCIS, who has now been put on notice that we're making a change so the last 4 weeks of waiting for our 171H has been wasted time. Instead of getting our 171H based on our current home study, submitting our dossier and then making the necessary age change, we will be waiting another 1, 2, 3, or 4 months to get all of this taken care of.
Here is a comparison of time lines
Lili's adoption - Just before the 3 month mark, our home study was complete and on its way to USCIS
Naomi's adoption - Just after the 3 month mark, I'm getting my fingerprints done again and still waiting on our home study
Lili's adoption - At 4 months and 1 week, our dossier was on its way to our agency
Naomi's adoption - At 4 months and 1 week, we're waiting for our completed home study
Lili's adoption - At 5 months and 1 week, we receive our referral
Naomi's adoption - At 5 months and 1 week, our home study is done, we have our DCFS endorsement letter and everything is on its way to USCIS
Lili's adoption - 7 months and our case has entered Family Court
Naomi's adoption - We are about 3 weeks away from the 7 month mark and I have no idea where we will be at that point.
Lili's adoption - 14 months - We're bringing Lili home
Naomi's adoption - Who knows!
Am I frustrated? Absolutely!!!!! This is taking much longer than Lili's adoption and that is a frustration.
When I started this blog I did so for the primary purpose of keeping friends and family up-to-date on our adoption and to share a little about our lives. However, the other benefit of blogging is that it allows me to have a record of what has happened at each stage of this journey. I wish all stages were positive steps forward, but that just isn't always the case.
One day in the future, I'll go back to read about the journey that brought our children to us and probably won't remember the frustration that I feel at this moment, but that day can't come soon enough at this point in time.
Monday, April 6, 2009
The Adoption World is Never Boring
Madonna's name and face was everywhere a few years ago when she adopted a little boy from Malawi and she made the news again last week when the announcement was made that she was back in Malawi to adopt a little girl. However, this time it didn't go as well as her first adoption. The courts ruled against her adoption.
What this kind of news tends to do is open another 'can of worms' regarding International adoption and unfortunately it tends to bring out the worst in some people. Everyone has their opinion on adoption in general and even more seem to have an opinion on International adoption regardless if they have adopted or not. But while everyone is arguing for and against adoption in Malawi, Ethiopia, Guatemala, Russia, Vietnam, China, etc., etc., etc. there are children in this world who are suffering from malnutrition and disease and many children are not surviving. Other children live in orphanages. Some of these children have families that are not able to care for them and some of these children have lost parents. Some of these children will find forever families outside the orphanage walls and others will not. That is the reality, plain and simple.
One of the best books I've read in a very long time is "There Is No Me Without You" by Melissa Fay Greene. She was recently interviewed about Madonna's Malawi adoption and I was thrilled to read her opinion on this tough topic.
Instead of just providing the link, I'm also attaching the interview.
Malawi's decision to reject pop star Madonna's adoption of a local child has reignited global debate about the ethics of international adoption.
Author Melissa Fay Greene poses with her family, which includes biological and adopted children.
Some international aid groups have praised the decision as best for the child, a 4-year-old girl named Chifundo James.
"I think it really highlights the bigger picture that there are so many children living in poverty in Malawi, and while Madonna has good intentions ... children would be better off staying in their own communities whenever possible," said Karen Hansen-Kuhn, policy director for ActionAid USA, a development group that also works in Malawi.
"We really need to stay focused on the needs of Malawi and of all the children there," she added.
To get another perspective on the situation, CNN also talked with Melissa Fay Greene, an author and mother of five adopted children.
Greene, who lives in Atlanta, Georgia, is the mother of four biological children, four children adopted from Ethiopia and one adopted child from Bulgaria.
The following is an edited transcript of that conversation:
CNN: What's your initial reaction to the news that Madonna's adoption of a Malawian child has been rejected?
Greene: Surprise. ... It was awfully tricky with Madonna's first adoption, when the child turned out to have devoted family members nearby. [The singer's adoption of a Malawian boy was finalized last year.] And if that's true with this child also, it seems a similar sticky situation.
That's not the situation for the majority of orphanage children around the world, who don't have caring grandparents or aunts and uncles a short walk or bike ride away.
I think it gives people an odd perspective on what international adoption can mean for children who don't have any support network outside the walls of an orphanage.
You often hear attacks on international adoption as robbing a child of his or her culture, and that's both true and false. It's true that an internationally adopted child loses the rich background of history and religion and culture and language that the child was born into, but the cruel fact is that most children don't have access to the local, beautiful culture within an orphanage. ...
There's a culture in orphanages that children are eager to escape from, and it's a culture of being reared as a group and not being doted upon by parents. For any child, that's the bottom line. The fact is that a human child wants that mommy or daddy or both. We're just wired to want that and to need that. And there's no way an institutional setting can give a human baby what the child needs. It's impossible. So you have to balance priorities. ...
I think what some of the human rights group say is absolutely accurate: that international adoption does not begin to solve the problems of the world's orphaned children. It's truly not the answer. ...
At the same time, international adoption, even though it doesn't solve the whole problem, it solves a problem for a few. I think it can be a brilliant solution to the problem of adults wanting a child in their lives or wanting more children in their lives and the problem of children who want parents in their lives.
CNN: How is it different for a celebrity person seeking an [international] adoption than for yourself?
Greene: We don't jet in, take a child and fly out with a child. For an average citizen trying to adopt, it takes most of a year. First of all, you work with a country that already has international adoption regulations in place, so you have a bureaucracy dealing with international adoption. A big part of that is determining that the child is a true orphan, that there is no one who can care for the child. And in the case of our older kids' adoptions, people had to come to court to testify that there was no one to take the children. So you don't run the risk of 'Oh, whoops, there's a grandmother down the street.' ...
CNN: There's been some chatter today online questioning why a person wouldn't adopt an orphaned child from their own country.
Greene: Within the adoption world, it's a non-issue. There are children all over the world who need families, and some find their children in Philadelphia, and some find their children in Bulgaria, you know? ...
It's just outsiders who look on and judge disapprovingly, but then they don't go on to adopt the neighborhood children, right? ... There are many children who need help, and anyone who wants to reach out and adopt a child from foster care or from a Russian orphanage should reach out and do it.
CNN: What has the experience been like for your own foster children?
Greene: We're a white Jewish family in Atlanta, but Atlanta is a major city for eastern African immigrants. So our children are in touch with the Ethiopian diaspora, and they feel very much a part of that. Atlanta is full of Ethiopian restaurants, markets, festivals. For a while, my kids were playing on weekends with an Ethiopian soccer league. I have an Ethiopian baby sitter who speaks to them only in Amharic so they won't lose their language, and we always have Ethiopian food here.
Two years ago, we went back to Ethiopia with the kids and had a big reunion for one of my sons and his extended family ... We just consider ourselves sort of part of this amazing bicontinental family.
CNN: The first time you adopted internationally, can you tell me what your ethical considerations were and how you worked through that personally?
Greene: Our first adoption was of a boy in rural Bulgaria. An incredibly poor orphanage. The kids were hungry, thirsty, no education. I first met our son, Jesse, when he was 4. He was 4 years old, and he did not know what his own name was ...
When he first came, he was just so anxious about food. When he would wake up, he was just shaking, wondering if there was going to be enough food. So I started waking him up with food.
He had issues with water. He wasn't sure if there was going to be enough water to drink, so I bought him a little canteen so he could wear his water all of the time.
Do I have ethical issues about taking him out of that orphanage? I don't.
CNN: Is there anything else you wanted to add?
Greene: I admire Madonna. And I don't understand why everyone attacks Madonna. I think that she is in part trying to raise the world's consciousness about the African orphan crisis.
You know, 95 percent of the children orphaned by AIDS [globally] are in sub-Saharan Africa. You don't hear world leaders talking about it. Where is the global outrage? ...
So, into the breach steps a celebrity. But don't attack her for it, you know. Maybe her methods are not what ours would be, but how many of us are Madonna? But at least she is out there; she's creating a school.
Obviously, she's fallen in love with the Malawian children to such an extent she wants to make some of them her own. And I think that it's great. I just don't understand why the world's attacking her. Let other people step forth and do something. At least she's trying. That's my feeling.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/04/03/madonna.reaction.adoption.malawi/index.html
Friday, April 3, 2009
FFF - New Mode of Transportation

I can't wait until the day I take her out for a trip around town and my legs don't 'feel the burn.' LOL!!!!
**Edit**
You can't really tell from the photo, but the kid trailer fits two kids. Hopefully pulling Lili around town will be easier before Noami arrives and I'm pulling two around town :-)
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Suspicious Request
Dear Families,
It has come to our attention that some families with children who have already been in the US for well over a year are being told by their attorneys that the CNA needs to "reveiw their case" and to submit a photocopy of their child's US Cerificate of Citizenship or their families US Passports to present to the CNA.
We are in communication with our sources and with the CNA. They have denied that any such requests have been made by them. It is a highly unusual request for children who are back in the US and it is not relavent to verification of adoption.
Please be advised that the US Certificate of Citizenship SHOULD NOT be photocopied.
Furthermore, we (Guatadopt) are a little concerned about the intent for these photocopied documents.
We will post any further developments.
The Guat Team