Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Our Special Week
To celebrate our Lilianaversary, we went to dinner and then out for ice cream. It was a simple, yet enjoyable time for our family.
Lili enjoying her ice cream. Checking on her baby sister.
As many of you know, our niece and her husband are also adopting from Ethiopia. They are with a different agency and have been waiting just over 1 1/2 years for their referral. I'm very happy to announce that they received the referral of a beautiful baby boy. Guess when they got their referral? Yes, the third week of March. In addition, his birthday is November 11th which was Dave's mom's birthday and also the day we received Naomi's referral. We are hoping the remainder of their process goes by quickly so they can bring their little guy home soon. We can't wait to meet him.
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Our Days in Ethiopia
I could certainly write detail on all the things we did, but I think pictures are the better way to go.
One of Lili's favorite past times at the guest home.
Lili made friends with the maintenance/guard at the guest house. His name is Mao and she called him Mile. He was wonderful with her and kept her entertained when we couldn't.
And there was basketball to play. Actually, it was just practicing dribbling since there was no hoop, but Lili was kept busy practicing her dribbling skills.
Daddy and Naomi time.
Play time.
Getting both girls, looking the same direction at the same time. Success!
Naomi showing her utter cuteness!
Notice Naomi's cheek? She has, what we believe is eczema. It was actually looking much better in this photo and looks even better since we've been home.
Here is one of only a few pictures we got of Naomi with mommy. That tends to happen when mommy is the primary photographer.
Hope you enjoyed just a glimpse of our time in Ethiopia.
Monday, March 29, 2010
Good-bye Toukoul
Naomi taking a little rest.
Because we wanted to spend our first days together just getting to know each other. We stayed around the guest home Tuesday and Wednesday. Not much to report, but I do have pictures to share.
Naomi really does smile a lot, but getting her to smile for the camera is challenging. My camera has a little red light that comes on prior to taking the picture which causes her to become a bit serious. However, I was able to get a cute little smile from her.
Lili wanted a partial family photo.
Speaking of Lili, I know some are interested in know how she did on the trip.
She did very well on the flights to Ethiopia. She was excited and had trouble settling down to sleep when we left Washington D.C., but when she finally did go to sleep she slept well. We had to wake her up for our landing in Rome and she was so tired by that point that she wanted to get off the plane. It was next to impossible explaining to her that we still have several hours left to go, but once we got back in the air, she settled down and slept a little more. Honestly, she did better than we anticipated.
All the sleep she did on the plane certainly made the flight more pleasant for us, but that also meant that she wasn't tired when we got to the guest home. Mommy and daddy didn't sleep quite as well on the plane, so we had some additional challenges the first night getting everyone to sleep.
We were all excited about seeing Naomi on Monday, but for Lili, exploring new surroundings was major fun. She was interested in checking out the guest home and playing outside. Our guest home had a small yard and a patio area. Lili took full advantage of the space every chance she got.
I can honestly say that having her with us was challenging several different times during the trip. She had complete melt downs more than once (that was expected) and didn't eat well, but it was an awesome experience for all of us and being there together as a family was so very special. Watching Lili and Naomi together in Naomi's country of birth was amazing and we have already witnessed the bond that is growing between them.
The other realization we came to was knowing that had we not taken Lili, our return home would have been much more difficult. She desires a lot of our attention and that would have most certainly been multiplied by at least 10 after not seeing us for so long. It would have been extremely difficult to provide her with the attention she needed and to give Naomi the attention she also needs. Having her there from the beginning of Naomi's physical arrival into our family most certainly helped. There was and still is jealousy that rears its ugly head from time to time, but we knew that would happen. Every day we settle in a little bit more and things get a little better.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Meeting Naomi
Since we arrived very late at night, we had no idea what the scene from our room would look like and we were very pleasantly surprised to have such a beautiful view. And as you can see, I wasn't dreaming about hearing a donkey. These two were standing in the intersection and a short time later were retrieved by their owner.
After breakfast Dave contacted our attorney and he asked us to be in his office at 2:00 p.m. followed by a trip to Le Toukoul orphanage to meet Naomi at 3:00 p.m. The day had finally arrived and we would be holding our baby girl for the first time.
We spent the rest of our morning getting things organized in our room, visiting with the other guests and getting to know the staff. This was going to be our home for 11 days and we wanted to be as comfortable as possible while there.
At 1:00p.m. our driver and translator arrived to take us to the attorney's office. The drive through the city is something that can't adequately be described. Toyota's rule the road but there appears to be no road rules. It is quite the experience. Along the way we see people going about their daily lives. Some dressed in business suits, others in t-shirts and jeans, while others wearing traditional Ethiopia clothing. The streets are lined with small shops and when I say small I mean shops that are maybe 8 foot by 8 foot in size. The shop owner stands at the shop window waiting on customers and the among the customers are stray dogs, roosters, chickens, donkeys, goats and sheep also walking the streets. It is a life very different from the one that exists here in the U.S., but it is a life that from all appearances makes the people of Ethiopia happy.
During the appointment with our attorney he spoke with someone from the Embassy who confirmed that they didn't have our fingerprint renewal information. Since I was still working on the fingerprint issue, he collected our Embassy documents and money, then sent us on our way to meet Naomi.
It was only a short drive from the attorney's office to the orphanage. We turned onto a bumpy dirt road and a few seconds later turned to see the blue gates of the orphanage in front of us. I had seen many, many pictures of these gates and now it was our turn to enter the gates and meet our baby.
For 4 months, Naomi had been living behind these blue gates and her days there would soon come to an end. It was an emotional entrance into her world.
We checked in at the office and were escorted to the family room to await Naomi's arrival. After waiting about 10 minutes, a nanny walked in carrying the most beautiful sight in all of Ethiopia - our Naomi.
The last photo was taken by Lili. She really wanted to take a picture and managed to get us all in the shot.
Dave suggested that we leave Naomi at the orphanage Monday night to give us time to get some more rest and to give Lili time to acclimate a bit more. So after about 1 1/2 hours, the nanny came back to get Naomi and we headed back to the guest home before heading out for a wonderful Ethiopian dinner at Yob Abyssinia.
For those who will be traveling to Ethiopia, do not leave the country until you have dinner at Yob Abyssinia. Awesome Ethiopian food awaits and during the entire dinner you will be entertained with traditional music, song and dance from each region of the country. It was amazing and Lili ate the food and was mesmerized by the entertainment.
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Travel Day
After almost 1 1/2 years, our adoption journey was coming to an end and we were very ready to close this chapter and begin the next.
Lili was apparently more excited about the trip than we knew since she woke up about 4 a.m. Saturday morning. So much for getting a good night's sleep before the long flight to Addis Ababa.
Our flight was delayed leaving Chicago, but since we had a long lay-over in Washington D.C. it wasn't a big deal. Fortunately, our flight leaving D.C. was on-time and we were thrilled.
Ethiopia Air was good. It certainly wasn't the nicest plane I had ever been on, but the flight crew took good care of us. My only complaint is that they kept feeding us. I know that might seem strange to say, but our flight left after 8:00 p.m. and by the time we got in the air and settled we just wanted to sit back, relax and try to get some rest. That's pretty difficult when all the lights are on and the flight attendants are walking the aisles serving food and drinks.
We landed in Addis Ababa the following evening and have never been more ready to get off a plane in our lives. Fortunately, getting through the visa and passport lines was fairly painless. We exchanged our U.S. money for Ethiopian birr, collected our luggage and headed out to find our transportation to the guest home.
Our stay in country was at the Ethiopia Guest Home (EGH) and as promised the driver was there holding a sign with my name on it. We were one of 4 adoptive families being transported to the guest home and there were a group of 3 from a church in Florida who were also staying there as they were doing volunteer work at the drop-in center (more on that later).
The Guest Home was wonderful. The orphanage also has a guest home, but seemed pretty pricey so we chose to stay elsewhere. Having never stayed at the orphanage guest home we can't give an accurate comparison, but do feel we made a good choice by staying at EGH.
Our room was on the 4th floor. It was very large with a queen size bed, bunk beds, a pack and play, a wall full of closet space, a small sofa and table. It also had a balcony and a large sitting area between our room and the other room on the floor.
The staff was awesome, making us feel welcome and taking care of our every need. We had internet access at the guest home and were given a cell phone to use in country which came in handy a few times (detail later). Each guest was assigned a driver and translator which we could use for a reasonable fee whenever we wanted or needed to. The other luxury of staying there was the free massage and boy did I need that massage.
I'll be sharing more information about the guest home and staff as I continue my posts about our trip, but for now I'll just share some photos.
The bags are packed and ready to go.
Our plane.
We arrived.
Seating area just outside our room.
Friday, March 26, 2010
We're Home
Friday, March 12, 2010
This Is It - Stay The Course
Thursday, March 11, 2010
All My Bags Are Packed
In two days we're leaving on a jet plane, don't know when we'll be back again. Okay, things will more than likely work out, but we're still dealing with the fingerprint drama. I woke up around 5:00 a.m. and after about 30 minutes of wondering finally got up to check email in hopes that the U.S. Embassy had responded with good news. No response. Bummer. Guess more phone calls will be made this morning.
What else is on tap for today? Housework and errands. Hum, that sounds pretty much like a typical day for me. And you were probably thinking I was going to post something exciting!!!!
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Not Much Time **More Info**
USCIS fingerprint drama went back downhill yesterday afternoon :-(
Maybe calling our Senator's office today.
I'll have to post later with more detail because I have some information that could prove helpful for others in the future.
**More Info**
As promised, I'm going to provide more information on what has been going on with our fingerprint renewal drama.
Yesterday I received an email from USCIS telling me that our information was being forwarded to the National Visa Center. I considered this good news, but quite honestly the email from USCIS was a bit cryptic so I emailed them again in an attempt to clarify exactly what was happening. It took two more emails to them to get a somewhat straight answer, but the final response was not what I wanted to hear. In my email request I asked that our fingerprint renewal information be sent electronically to the National Visa Center, however, USCIS mailed our information to the National Visa Center. Yes, it was sent through the United States Postal Service from Chicago to New Jersey yesterday. Will the National Visa Center get our information, process that information and get it sent to the Embassy in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia prior to our departure Saturday? I don't know.
So, now I know that our info is on it's way, but the woman who did our prints at the Application Support Center told me everything would be sent out the following day. Therefore, I decided to call the National Visa Center yet again. If our information had really been sent earlier, maybe they would have it by now. The answer was 'no.' They had nothing. However, I was able to speak with another supervisor who did some further checking and put a notice out to the entire center to be on the look-out for our information. This supervisor also gave me information that no one else had given me before. He told me that the National Visa Center will accept information electronically. He said that sending information electronically is not the normal process for USCIS. USCIS, in special circumstances, will honor a request for information to be sent electronically and this supervisor felt that our situation would qualify as a special circumstance. I told him that my request to USCIS was that they send our information electronically, but they obviously did not honor that request. He then suggested I contact our U.S. Congressman's office or U.S. Senator's office for assistance. I told him that our Congressman's office was involved and he then suggested that we get our Senator's office involved as Senator's hold a bit more clout.
After receiving this information, I emailed my contact at our Congressman's office with the information I had received and asking her if she is able to assist us further or if it was time to get our Senator's office involved. No response so far, which means I'll be calling our Senator's office this afternoon for assistance.
In the meantime, I received a call from our agency consultant telling me that she has another family in a very similar situation. The other family has received information from USCIS that I have not been given. According to the USCIS representative they have been in contact with, when a family has their fingerprint renewal done prior to the expiration of their current prints, USCIS sends the updated information directly to the Embassy without going through the National Visa Center. Wouldn't that be wonderful if it's true?!!!! This is not information that I have been given by USCIS or the National Visa Center, so I have no idea if this information is correct or not. However, I have now sent an email to the Embassy in Addis Ababa asking them if they have our updated information. Since there is a 9 hour time difference between here and Addis Ababa, I'm hopeful that I'll wake up to an email confirming whether or not they have all the necessary information for our Embassy appointment on the 22nd. Of course I'm not the type to sit and wait for an email that may or may not arrive, so I'll continue to work on this issue throughout the rest of today.
Other than hoping beyond hope that this is all resolved before we leave Saturday, I also hope that our experience and the information I've gained will help others who may find themselves in a similar situation.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Maybe the Drama Ends Today
I received an email from USCIS this morning letting me know that our update would be cabled today.
I then contacted the immigration specialist at our Congressman's office to let her know what was happening and this is the response I received:
I will be checking up with the National Visa Center today as well. The agency needs to be aware of our interest in your case, which should result in its prompt attention to your file.
We’ll be in touch as needed.
Apparently, the email from USCIS was prompted by contact from a U.S. Congressman's office and at some point today the National Visa Center is going to hear from that same office. I think we may very well be leaving for Ethiopia on Saturday with everything in place.
Want to guess who is likely to get my vote next election?
When Will the Drama End
Monday, March 8, 2010
Last Work Week
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Days
Days before we land in Ethiopia.
Days until we are holding Naomi.
Today we're going to go visit Ryan for a few hours. Our last few visits with him have been awesome and we hope today is no exception. We're so happy and relieved to have him in a program that is working well for him. Of course our next visit will include Naomi. We've been preparing him for the arrival of his new little sister and based on his reaction to Lili, we anticipate he'll be happy and all smiles when he meets Naomi. He really does love babies and small children.
Lili has been talking about "her family" a lot lately. She will frequently say "my family" in a very sweet little voice full of happiness and love for her family. She likes to list all the members of "her family" and appears to feel sad if one of those members aren't around when she's talking about "her family." It's very cute and sweet. I'd like to take credit for being the one who taught her about family and provided her with a full understanding of family, but quite honestly I have to give credit where credit is due. Thanks to The Chipmunks movie, which spends a fair amount of time talking about family, she has put two and two together. Of course The Chipmunks movie is also an example of how families are formed through adoption and boy does that movie do a good job of showing that you don't have to look alike to be a family.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
One Week
Notice the quilt and pillow on the rocking chair. That is Naomi's first gift from my friend Debby.
I would also love to replace the rocking chair with a soft upholstered chair, but if that happens, it won't happen until we get back. It is just nice to have all her furniture set up and clothes in her dressers. The only thing that it's truly missing is Naomi.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Quickly Approaching
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Single Digits
I know that paints a somewhat scary picture and I'm sure we'll get this all worked out, but there have been more than a few families that have been caught in very similar situations and I'm trying to stay on top of this to make sure our family is not added to that list.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Cleaning and Organizing
I'm now in official cleaning and organizing mode. I've cleaned out some cupboards, washed curtains, dusted window trim, and managed to fill several garbage bags. Sad thing is, my to-do list seems to get longer instead of shorter. I just seem to find something else that I want to get done before we leave.
Yesterday morning Dave and I were laying in bed with Lili right in between us. She thinks it's great fun to lay in our bed and watch t.v. and really seemed to be enjoying her time with mommy and daddy. At one point she reached out to touch both of us at the same time and said, "My family." Ahhh, so sweet. I also thought it was a good time to prod a little about how she's going to react to Naomi laying in bed with us so I asked her where Naomi was going to lay and she told me, "In Naomi's bed." When I asked if Naomi could lay next to Lili I was told, "No." When I asked if Naomi could lay in mommy and daddy's bed I was told, "No." Obviously, Naomi will lay in mommy and daddy's bed, but it appears this is not going to be acceptable to Lili.
Last night Dave and Lili had their first pillow fight. They were using the sofa pillows. What kid doesn't like a pillow fight?!! And what parent doesn't laugh when their little one tried to pick up 2 pillows at the same time hit daddy with them and just about fall over backwards because the pillows weight almost as much as the child. It was very entertaining to watch and Lili's laughter is contagious. What will our lives be like with the laughter of two little girls filling the house?
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
Coffee
Close your store? Perish the thought!!! Rob is still in the first year of having brought his girls home and has found that there are still expenses that arise as you and your new child adjust to the change. We allow fundraising families to keep their stores open for 12 months after they return home to help off-set the expenses of growing a family! We congratulate you and hope that you will send a picture for us to put on the wall here at the roasterie. I think that it will be inspiring to me as I roast to see the families we have helped unite!
For those of you not familiar with Just Love Coffee Roasters, Rob is the founder and owner. He and his wife adopted two little girls from Ethiopia and came home with an overwhelming desire to do something more. They provide a fundraising program to help adoptive families off-set the cost of adoption and are also raising money to build a school at one of the orphanages in Ethiopia. I really wasn't expecting this response, but how wonderful that they want to do what they can to assist families with their on-going expenses after returning home.
Our storefront will stay open until the end of October now and I guess I'll be sending Just Love Coffee Roasters a picture of Naomi with her new family!
days to Naomi. Two weeks from today we'll be holding and loving on our precious baby girl!!!
Yesterday, Dave got the crib assembled and it is now made up and ready for a cute little body. Strangely enough, Lili was very impressed and thrilled about Naomi's crib. Too bad she wasn't as impressed and thrilled about her own crib. LOL!! Which, by-the-way, is identical to Naomi's except for the stain. Lili's crib has since been converted to her big girl bed, which fortunately she is thrilled about.
I have started packing and have all of Naomi's clothes, bottles and formula packed and ready to go. I need to pull the baby toys out of storage and throw a few of them in the bags and then I'll have all her things packed.
Just in time for our upcoming trip, Lili has made a new friend. Her name is May-May and she's invisible. At first I thought she was referring to Naomi and questioned her about it, but she has convinced me that May-May is her friend and Naomi is her baby sister. They are absolutely two different beings. She doesn't know where May-May lives, but May-May is involved in a lot of upcoming activities and daily events. Last night Lili was playing with her Jack-in-the-Box and seemed to suddenly be frightened by Jack popping out of the box. However, she told us that May-May was scared. May-May was going to eat pizza with us last night and was going to take a bath with Lili. May-May is now a part of our lives and I assume she'll be traveling to Ethiopia with us, but she has to fund her part of the trip :-)
Dave and I were talking about our hope that the weather is going to finally warm up and hoping that we'll be able to break our bikes out and start riding them while he's on Infant Care Leave. We have a really nice double bike trailer the girls will ride in and I am the puller of the trailer. However, my dear husband informed me this morning that he'll pull May-May. What a guy!!!